His girlfriend?
Or his
therapist?
A loving debrief is one thing. Being the reassurance desk, motivational coach, and entire backup system is quite a job description. Let’s audit what landed on yours.
12 questions · About 2 minutes · Free. No sign-up.
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Think about the support pattern over time.
A score. A verdict. A paper trail.
A result card made for the group chat.
Entertainment, not relationship science. This playful role audit asks about support load, reciprocity, and boundaries—not whether a man is allowed to open up. It is not a clinical test or a measure of anyone’s mental health. Illness, stress, disability, and access to other support can affect the arrangement.
Answer about his usual behavior, not his best-ever Tuesday.
Your unofficial role.
Now in writing.
The group chat had a theory.
Now it has an attachment.
A smaller job description starts here.
“I care about what you’re going through. I have about 20 minutes tonight—would listening or thinking through next steps help?”
“I can help you think it through, but I can’t make the decision or manage all the follow-up for you.”
“I need room for my feelings too. What other support could we each turn to?”
Use the words that fit your circumstances. These are conversation starters, not a treatment plan.
How did the lab calculate this?
The first 11 questions contribute 0–5 points each. The final overall-support question contributes 0–7, giving it 1.4 times the weight. The full maximum is 62 points. Your score is your total divided by the maximum for the questions you answered, multiplied by 100 and rounded to a whole number. Skipped questions are excluded. Category notes reflect the highest average scores in your answers. The same answers always produce the same result.
This is an entertainment score, not a validated assessment. Different questions and weights would produce different results. Higher scores indicate more perceived emotional role overload in the answers you supplied. The thresholds are editorial, not validated. The result does not establish his motives, diagnose dependence, or mean that you are providing professional therapy.